Rules for being a good partner

 

By Marty Bergen

 

(Extract from Bulletin of NABCSummer – 2005 - Atlanta)

 

I have always believed that your attitude toward your partner is as important as your technical skill at the game. Rixi Markus, one of the all-time great players.

 

Before you sit down to discuss what you are playing, you should start your partnership off on the right note. Half the battle of winning is being a good partner. Always observe the following:

 

1. Do not give lessons – unless you are being paid to do so. According to an evening paper, there are only five real authorities on bridge in this country. Odd how often one gets one of them as a partner. Punch (British magazine).

 

2. Never say anything to your partner unless you would want him to say the same to you. If you are unsure whether your partner would want you to say something, don’t.

 

3. Never “result” (criticize your partner for a normal action just because it did not work this time).

 

4. Unless your intent is to clear up amisunderstanding, avoid discussing the hand just played. If you cannot resist, be discreet.

 

5. Remember that you and your partner are on the same side.

 

6. Do not forget that your partner wants to win just as much as you do.

 

7. If you feel the urge to be nasty, sarcastic,critical or loud –excuse yourself and take a walk.

 

8. When there is time between hands, do not discuss bridge.

 

9. When you want to consult another player about a disaster, ask about your hand, not your partner’s.

 

10. Do not ever criticize or embarrass your partner in front of others.

 

11. Remember that bridge is only a cardgame.

 

Re-printed, with permission of the author,from Points Schmoints! Bergen’s Winning Bridge Secrets.